So like many people my age i am surrounded by the generation before mine's DIVORCE! So instead of the what should be (my belief of course is that marriage is FOREVER so this is how it should be in my life) 2 sets of grandparent and 1 set of inlaws to deal with I am now blessed with FOUR sets of grandparents and TWO sets of inlaws. Aside from the advice and comments about your parenting (given more as subtle jabs in the form of how they did things) from 2 inlaws, I have to take into consideration their "feelings" whenever my husband and I plan anything concerning our children. WOW does the phrase "sins of our fathers" come to mind. Although all of us married folk know that it truly does take 2 to make a marriage work and to make a marriage fall apart.
another little preach of mine PLEASE LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU TRY TO LOVE ANOTHER!!!! MARRIAGE IS HARD AND IF YOU DONT LOVE YOURSELF HOW IS SOMEONE ELSE SUPPOSE TOO? YOU WILL ALWAYS NEED MORE THAN YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE IS ABLE TO GIVE YOU! GET RIGHT WITH THE LORD AND LET HIM LOVE YOU!!!!!!! THROUGH HIS LOVE YOU WILL BE ABLE TO LOVE YOURSELF!!
ok so back to the kid's dedication. we planned a little reception afterwards which of course has become a HUGE deal because BJ's dad and grandmother do not want to be around his mother. I get cheating and divorce hurt but you are remarried and your grandchildren should come first. Love the Lord you proclaim and let him take away to hurt. be the Christian you say you are and find forgiveness and grace!
I have come to the place where what is important is no longer your feeling but MINE and my children's! no longer will i be concerned with you and your SELF exclusion!
wow does it feel better to say that out loud and put in on paper(blog)!
in conclusion find what works for you and your family and do it. dont be concerned with others and their relationship with your family. let them be responsible for their own actions and feelings and let your feeling be known!
